You know, I am constantly writing for others and I forget sometimes that my passion is for writing. I was looking around the web earlier and I found something interesting. It’s a series from BBC called Tribal Wives. I actually sat there and watched a whole hour of one of these shows. I watched the one with the Afar tribe. It truly gave me a new perspective on how things are so different here compared to other cultures. So many things that we take for granted and we don’t even realize it.
While I was watching the show, I realized that the simple things in life like our husbands are something we clearly take for granted. The Afar women cannot even eat with their husbands because it’s considered “rude.” These women are beat by their husbands and for often no reason at all. As I watched the show I realized how hard these women really work.
I complain on a daily basis about having to wash laundry in my weird washer, but these women have to travel to a river just to wash their laundry. I watched as the women travelled down to the muddy river and gathered their drinking water. I saw children the size of mine walking around without really any guidance. The women hauled firewood, baked bread, cooked and even built houses. The men took care of the animals, but if something was killed the women had to skin and prepare it. Young girls are circumcised to make sure they are virgins for their husbands.
I do not know why this particular video struck me so much today. I often wish that I had more money or perhaps lived in a “bigger house,” but for me that changed today. Understanding that there are people out there who do not even have the basic rights as us really struck me as heart wrenching. I often read the statuses of Facebook and I almost feel as though it’s a contest to see who is the happiest or who has the biggest of something. Does that really matter?
The women of the Afar tribe work hard and are some of the happiest people in the world. We live in a society where women do not really die of childbirth. These Afar women have a challenge because 1 in 12 women may die while giving birth to a child.
Each and every day I complain about where I’m going to eat or that I have to work. I got to choose my husband and I wasn’t forced into a marriage when I was 14. I have been through a lot, but none of it comes close to what some of these women go through, but they still have pure joy.
I look forward to watching more of these videos and understanding another culture. I will pray for these women and the hard lives they are forced to live every day.